The Breakup

Some breakups come suddenly – a huge disagreement that makes you wonder why you were ever with a person in the first place, and then you have no choice but to end things. It can’t be any other way. Others come slowly over time – there’s not really an actual problem, but you know that, as much as you remember why you were with someone in the first place, you’re not always sure why you’re still with them. The magic is gone, it’s not what it once was. Sometimes it’s brought on by circumstance, sometimes it’s brought on by people just drifting apart. It’s sad either way, and it makes you feel a bit as though you’ve lost your bearings for a while, because you’re out there again, searching for the right one.

Well, after 14 years with my hairstylist and friend Roxanne, I had to move on. Things had changed, (namely our respective locations) and I just couldn’t roll with it anymore. So now I’m seeing someone new at some place new, and I have to say, I’m really happy. I made a big change, and I am delighted with it – the place is great, and Renah, who is fabulous, spent a lot of time with me, making sure it was just right and that I was happy.

Plus, Sonoma is right next door, so it makes the perfect spot for an after-haircut dinner.

I’m pretty darn certain that this is something that applies only to women, and not all women, just those of us who have established a relationship with someone in particular. But once you’ve done that, once you’ve established that relationship it feels almost like cheating to go see someone else. Yes, this seems like insanity, and in a way it is. But so is the fact that women grow entire people inside their bodies, and no one contests that one.

No word on the job front, and that’s actually fine. I don’t expect anything to come from that right away, but I’m just doing my best to stay open to any opportunities that may come up, and doing my best to keep doing my best at my current job. It’s kind of exciting, the thought of an upcoming transition, but at the same time, I feel really peaceful and calm about it all – as if this is just the next phase of my life that I’m being prepared for.

Special K wonders why it is that women tend to get new hairstyles when entering new phases of life. Not sure if that’s true across the board, but since I have a 10-inch ponytail sitting in an envelope for me to mail to Locks of Love or Wigs for Kids or one of those places, I can’t really say much to the contrary at present.